Is The Grass Greener?

Is the grass always greener on the other side? The answer is no. It isn't. You think what you have isn't good, but then you want something else. Then you realize, wow, what I had earlier wasn't all that bad. I guess it's just a way that you learn about life and this is a lesson that you go through in life.

I'm going to get off topic for a while and talk about something else. I got another question. Can you teach an old dog new tricks? I've heard many females say that they want to, and can change their man. Is that really possible. Check it out. You can't change anyone. They are who they are, that's it. What you can do is to make them change for you, but that's not your decision. That'll be up to them. What can make a person change their ways for someone else though, can love do it? That's something to think about. Well, if you can't change a person, can you make them at least enlighten them about certain aspects in life that you have been priveledged/blessed to recieve enlightenment in. I think this is very possible. In a relationship two people should grow together and in that process of growing, the two of you should become more and more like each other (or more and more less like each other in some cases). Some things will rub off of her and vice-versa.

In order to accomplish this feat of helping someone grow as a person, one thing is first and foremost. They must be wanting to grow and make a change. The person has to be willing to absorb the growth they are about to witness. I think this is the problem with growth in a relationship. Now as I talk about growth in a relationship, there should also be growth in the fact that you should notice one's weaknesses. If one person is not good at something or can't do something, the next person should be willing, ready, and waiting to pick that person up and carry them the rest of the way if need be. A lot of people talk about strictly defined male/female roles and I agree for the most part, but they should be submissive to each other and work toward a common goal. If my wife is working late and I know she won't be home to cook dinner, I'll cook dinner, or vice versa. Is this wrong of me to think this way? I've been told that it is. I really don't care to be honest though... this is the type of relationship that I want. If I can't hold down the fort, I need someone to have my back when I'm in need, and when we're both in need, we can both call on God for strength, together...

I don't know where I went with this, but the original topic stands.. the grass is not always greener on the other side... unfortunately. Everyone has good things and bad things about them. Which traits are most important to you is the real question... Ummm.....

Reciprocity

Reciprocity... This word was introduced today in the terms of in a relationship. Let me start off by giving you a definition...

rec·i·proc·i·ty:
n. pl. rec·i·proc·i·ties
1) A reciprocal condition or relationship.
2) A mutual or cooperative interchange of favors or privileges, especially the exchange of rights or privileges of trade between nations.

Don't we all wish we could have this in a relationship! I've had it a few times, I must admit, but it seems to never last long. It seems to only be in that "impress" stage in a relationship. That "impress" stage is when you first meet someone and they can do no wrong. You may see traits in them that you might not like, but you are blinded by them. Later on as you get more comfortable, you start speaking your mind on things, then things go downhill from there. But anyways... back to reciprocity.

If you still don't understand what this is, it's this... you get what you put in... Relates back to the old Golden Rule adage, "Do onto others as you wish them to do onto you" or however it goes. But, the problem is that people in the world today are lazy... they want something for nothing. Through my pledge process I was taught that anything worth having, is worth working for, so I worked hard for my letters b/c they were, are, and will be very worthy to me.

In relationships, put in what you want out of it. Practice this "reciprocity." It will make for a happier relationship and more full-filling relationship. Also, remember this, don't start nothing that you can't finish. If you start off by sending a dozen of rozes every Friday at 12:00, you better keep doing it. If you start off by giving your man foot rubs every day after work, don't stop. Never start nothing that you can't keep up. As soon as things cease, feelings will be brought up. Anyways, ya'll have a good day...