Today has been an interesting day. Went to my grandmother's house early this morning (which I never do), and my uncle was there fixing her busted water line. Anyways, on the way home I was listening to my favorite artist and it made me think about the past few years. It's amazing how much you can grow in such a relatively short period of time! So today, sit back and just reflect on how long you've come. Lord knows I've come a mighty long way!
BW
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
Why Not...
So I was looking through my Google account stuff the other day and found my blog that I haven't written in for a minute, so I'm gonna try to get back to it. Why not?
Things with me are going pretty good. I'm about to turn the big 30 and trying to prepare for that. I'm doing pretty well for myself... can't really complain about much these days. No one wants to hear it anyways.. lol.. Anyways, if anyone reads this, hopefully I won't forget about it anymore.
BW
Things with me are going pretty good. I'm about to turn the big 30 and trying to prepare for that. I'm doing pretty well for myself... can't really complain about much these days. No one wants to hear it anyways.. lol.. Anyways, if anyone reads this, hopefully I won't forget about it anymore.
BW
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
Is The Grass Greener?
Is the grass always greener on the other side? The answer is no. It isn't. You think what you have isn't good, but then you want something else. Then you realize, wow, what I had earlier wasn't all that bad. I guess it's just a way that you learn about life and this is a lesson that you go through in life.
I'm going to get off topic for a while and talk about something else. I got another question. Can you teach an old dog new tricks? I've heard many females say that they want to, and can change their man. Is that really possible. Check it out. You can't change anyone. They are who they are, that's it. What you can do is to make them change for you, but that's not your decision. That'll be up to them. What can make a person change their ways for someone else though, can love do it? That's something to think about. Well, if you can't change a person, can you make them at least enlighten them about certain aspects in life that you have been priveledged/blessed to recieve enlightenment in. I think this is very possible. In a relationship two people should grow together and in that process of growing, the two of you should become more and more like each other (or more and more less like each other in some cases). Some things will rub off of her and vice-versa.
In order to accomplish this feat of helping someone grow as a person, one thing is first and foremost. They must be wanting to grow and make a change. The person has to be willing to absorb the growth they are about to witness. I think this is the problem with growth in a relationship. Now as I talk about growth in a relationship, there should also be growth in the fact that you should notice one's weaknesses. If one person is not good at something or can't do something, the next person should be willing, ready, and waiting to pick that person up and carry them the rest of the way if need be. A lot of people talk about strictly defined male/female roles and I agree for the most part, but they should be submissive to each other and work toward a common goal. If my wife is working late and I know she won't be home to cook dinner, I'll cook dinner, or vice versa. Is this wrong of me to think this way? I've been told that it is. I really don't care to be honest though... this is the type of relationship that I want. If I can't hold down the fort, I need someone to have my back when I'm in need, and when we're both in need, we can both call on God for strength, together...
I don't know where I went with this, but the original topic stands.. the grass is not always greener on the other side... unfortunately. Everyone has good things and bad things about them. Which traits are most important to you is the real question... Ummm.....
I'm going to get off topic for a while and talk about something else. I got another question. Can you teach an old dog new tricks? I've heard many females say that they want to, and can change their man. Is that really possible. Check it out. You can't change anyone. They are who they are, that's it. What you can do is to make them change for you, but that's not your decision. That'll be up to them. What can make a person change their ways for someone else though, can love do it? That's something to think about. Well, if you can't change a person, can you make them at least enlighten them about certain aspects in life that you have been priveledged/blessed to recieve enlightenment in. I think this is very possible. In a relationship two people should grow together and in that process of growing, the two of you should become more and more like each other (or more and more less like each other in some cases). Some things will rub off of her and vice-versa.
In order to accomplish this feat of helping someone grow as a person, one thing is first and foremost. They must be wanting to grow and make a change. The person has to be willing to absorb the growth they are about to witness. I think this is the problem with growth in a relationship. Now as I talk about growth in a relationship, there should also be growth in the fact that you should notice one's weaknesses. If one person is not good at something or can't do something, the next person should be willing, ready, and waiting to pick that person up and carry them the rest of the way if need be. A lot of people talk about strictly defined male/female roles and I agree for the most part, but they should be submissive to each other and work toward a common goal. If my wife is working late and I know she won't be home to cook dinner, I'll cook dinner, or vice versa. Is this wrong of me to think this way? I've been told that it is. I really don't care to be honest though... this is the type of relationship that I want. If I can't hold down the fort, I need someone to have my back when I'm in need, and when we're both in need, we can both call on God for strength, together...
I don't know where I went with this, but the original topic stands.. the grass is not always greener on the other side... unfortunately. Everyone has good things and bad things about them. Which traits are most important to you is the real question... Ummm.....
Tuesday, November 8, 2005
Reciprocity
Reciprocity... This word was introduced today in the terms of in a relationship. Let me start off by giving you a definition...
rec·i·proc·i·ty:
n. pl. rec·i·proc·i·ties
1) A reciprocal condition or relationship.
2) A mutual or cooperative interchange of favors or privileges, especially the exchange of rights or privileges of trade between nations.
Don't we all wish we could have this in a relationship! I've had it a few times, I must admit, but it seems to never last long. It seems to only be in that "impress" stage in a relationship. That "impress" stage is when you first meet someone and they can do no wrong. You may see traits in them that you might not like, but you are blinded by them. Later on as you get more comfortable, you start speaking your mind on things, then things go downhill from there. But anyways... back to reciprocity.
If you still don't understand what this is, it's this... you get what you put in... Relates back to the old Golden Rule adage, "Do onto others as you wish them to do onto you" or however it goes. But, the problem is that people in the world today are lazy... they want something for nothing. Through my pledge process I was taught that anything worth having, is worth working for, so I worked hard for my letters b/c they were, are, and will be very worthy to me.
In relationships, put in what you want out of it. Practice this "reciprocity." It will make for a happier relationship and more full-filling relationship. Also, remember this, don't start nothing that you can't finish. If you start off by sending a dozen of rozes every Friday at 12:00, you better keep doing it. If you start off by giving your man foot rubs every day after work, don't stop. Never start nothing that you can't keep up. As soon as things cease, feelings will be brought up. Anyways, ya'll have a good day...
rec·i·proc·i·ty:
n. pl. rec·i·proc·i·ties
1) A reciprocal condition or relationship.
2) A mutual or cooperative interchange of favors or privileges, especially the exchange of rights or privileges of trade between nations.
Don't we all wish we could have this in a relationship! I've had it a few times, I must admit, but it seems to never last long. It seems to only be in that "impress" stage in a relationship. That "impress" stage is when you first meet someone and they can do no wrong. You may see traits in them that you might not like, but you are blinded by them. Later on as you get more comfortable, you start speaking your mind on things, then things go downhill from there. But anyways... back to reciprocity.
If you still don't understand what this is, it's this... you get what you put in... Relates back to the old Golden Rule adage, "Do onto others as you wish them to do onto you" or however it goes. But, the problem is that people in the world today are lazy... they want something for nothing. Through my pledge process I was taught that anything worth having, is worth working for, so I worked hard for my letters b/c they were, are, and will be very worthy to me.
In relationships, put in what you want out of it. Practice this "reciprocity." It will make for a happier relationship and more full-filling relationship. Also, remember this, don't start nothing that you can't finish. If you start off by sending a dozen of rozes every Friday at 12:00, you better keep doing it. If you start off by giving your man foot rubs every day after work, don't stop. Never start nothing that you can't keep up. As soon as things cease, feelings will be brought up. Anyways, ya'll have a good day...
Monday, October 31, 2005
Let The Truth Be Told
Today has been a most interesting day. Have you ever been in a predicament where you think something is going on behind your back, or have the feeling like you don't know thewhole story... My feelings all came to a head today when I found out that I didn't know the exact truth about a particular subject. It was with a young lady. Well, so I did the wrong thing (or did I?) and ask the question again, and I got the same answer I got the first time. I then got a call after two hours of going back and forth on the phone giving me the truth, or near truth. Now, the question is this. Can you trust someone who has lied to you before. A wise man by the name of H-Dub always told me, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." I'm trying hard not to get to that 2nd fool me. Brings up another topic, is Ignorance really Bliss?
"Ignorance is Bliss." To some this is a true statement. I'm the type of person that would rather know, and then just move on from that point. You always hear people say, "Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to." Maybe I'm just dumb to always ask those questions. It just seems too simple. Someone asks a question, and you answer it truthfully. Is the world forever doomed to live in a "fake" world where you don't know what truth is. Don't know who someone really is, don't know who you really are? That's deep. I guess the choice is really yours. But I guess it depends on the person too. I like to keep it "real", so I expect the same in return. Simple.
I might as well "keep it real" to myself then. I'm going to be honest... it's all true. Ignorance is bliss. What you don't know, won't hurt you. It's sad that it had to be this way, but it's true. You can worry about things all you want, but as long as you don't know the truth, it won't hurt you. Maybe if I just let things go sometimes and don't go down rabbit holes, I'll be in a much happier state right now.
"Ignorance is Bliss." To some this is a true statement. I'm the type of person that would rather know, and then just move on from that point. You always hear people say, "Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to." Maybe I'm just dumb to always ask those questions. It just seems too simple. Someone asks a question, and you answer it truthfully. Is the world forever doomed to live in a "fake" world where you don't know what truth is. Don't know who someone really is, don't know who you really are? That's deep. I guess the choice is really yours. But I guess it depends on the person too. I like to keep it "real", so I expect the same in return. Simple.
I might as well "keep it real" to myself then. I'm going to be honest... it's all true. Ignorance is bliss. What you don't know, won't hurt you. It's sad that it had to be this way, but it's true. You can worry about things all you want, but as long as you don't know the truth, it won't hurt you. Maybe if I just let things go sometimes and don't go down rabbit holes, I'll be in a much happier state right now.
Friday, October 28, 2005
The Friday Frenzy : Are You Doing Enough?
Today's topic is about: enough...
When is enough, enough? Many have pondered this question and it is one of those question that you don't have the answer to. Let me start it off by talking about your purpose in life and what makes you happy.
Many people have the bomb job.. nice houses, nice cars, etc... From the outside they have the perfect life. Some people are content with this perception, but others want more out of life. Not material things or want more financially, but they have this inner desire to do more for others, for the community. Help boost the morale of someone, make someone smile. The desire to help others. Am I doing enough? No, but I want to do more. I have a few ideas of things I want to do in the community, b/c to be honest, the Lowcountry needs help. But back to the topic, when you start doing things for the betterment of mankind, when is enough good enough? If you help tutor some kids at a local high school once a week, is that enough? Or should you do it Monday - Friday after you have been off of work all day? Is that enough or too much?
I think it's enough when you feel like your workload has been done. If you taking the time out to call an elder in the family to check on them or if you just take them dinner, or whatever will make you feel good inside, that's when it's enough. It can vary from person to person, but only you know how much you can do, and what will make you feel content with what you are doing. You know sometimes you do things, but don't feel content.. you think in your mind.. I could have done more... I could have went to Bible study, I could have stayed around longer, etc... Now, after thinking about it... This is about to take a turn.. :-)
new update... I think you can do enough but still have thoughts that you haven't done enough. I think that is just the human way of thinking. You could take your significant other out for dinner and still think, "I hope he/she likes this... I hope they are enjoying it.." As human, I guess we always second guess our actions. We always want to know the answer to the question we can't answer, "WHAT IF".
"What if" I would have dated that guy/girl in HS that liked me ...
"What if" I majored in ...
"What if" I took that job in ...
On the topic of what if... I think some people need to just accept life for what it is. If you are living and are healthy, and are in good situations, be thankful. Ignorance is bliss. You might not want to see yourself if you went down the other road. That's one thing with life, you are on the road, come to a fork, and take a right, but life gives you the knowledge to build your own side street and you might end up where the left turn would have brought you out at..
But back to "what if"... I'm a scientific type guy, so I'm gonna bring out a phenomena called the "Butterfly Effect". :-) If you've seen the movie, you know what I'm talking about. The Butterfly Effect is a major concept in Chaos Theory. It encapsulates the more technical notion of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory. In English terms, it is possible for the flap of a butterfly's wings in Tahiti to trigger a Kansas tornado. But in reference to what if.. if you change something in the past, due to the initial conditions and the dependence on chronological events, everything you know now will change. Deep....
Enough rambling for today. I also want to say thanks for guests who have been posting comments. I didn't know people actually read what I write, but I guess they do. Thank you, Thank you.. you're far too kind...
BWright
When is enough, enough? Many have pondered this question and it is one of those question that you don't have the answer to. Let me start it off by talking about your purpose in life and what makes you happy.
Many people have the bomb job.. nice houses, nice cars, etc... From the outside they have the perfect life. Some people are content with this perception, but others want more out of life. Not material things or want more financially, but they have this inner desire to do more for others, for the community. Help boost the morale of someone, make someone smile. The desire to help others. Am I doing enough? No, but I want to do more. I have a few ideas of things I want to do in the community, b/c to be honest, the Lowcountry needs help. But back to the topic, when you start doing things for the betterment of mankind, when is enough good enough? If you help tutor some kids at a local high school once a week, is that enough? Or should you do it Monday - Friday after you have been off of work all day? Is that enough or too much?
I think it's enough when you feel like your workload has been done. If you taking the time out to call an elder in the family to check on them or if you just take them dinner, or whatever will make you feel good inside, that's when it's enough. It can vary from person to person, but only you know how much you can do, and what will make you feel content with what you are doing. You know sometimes you do things, but don't feel content.. you think in your mind.. I could have done more... I could have went to Bible study, I could have stayed around longer, etc... Now, after thinking about it... This is about to take a turn.. :-)
new update... I think you can do enough but still have thoughts that you haven't done enough. I think that is just the human way of thinking. You could take your significant other out for dinner and still think, "I hope he/she likes this... I hope they are enjoying it.." As human, I guess we always second guess our actions. We always want to know the answer to the question we can't answer, "WHAT IF".
"What if" I would have dated that guy/girl in HS that liked me ...
"What if" I majored in ...
"What if" I took that job in ...
On the topic of what if... I think some people need to just accept life for what it is. If you are living and are healthy, and are in good situations, be thankful. Ignorance is bliss. You might not want to see yourself if you went down the other road. That's one thing with life, you are on the road, come to a fork, and take a right, but life gives you the knowledge to build your own side street and you might end up where the left turn would have brought you out at..
But back to "what if"... I'm a scientific type guy, so I'm gonna bring out a phenomena called the "Butterfly Effect". :-) If you've seen the movie, you know what I'm talking about. The Butterfly Effect is a major concept in Chaos Theory. It encapsulates the more technical notion of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory. In English terms, it is possible for the flap of a butterfly's wings in Tahiti to trigger a Kansas tornado. But in reference to what if.. if you change something in the past, due to the initial conditions and the dependence on chronological events, everything you know now will change. Deep....
Enough rambling for today. I also want to say thanks for guests who have been posting comments. I didn't know people actually read what I write, but I guess they do. Thank you, Thank you.. you're far too kind...
BWright
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
Too Good To Be True
I have a big problem with people in general.. why when something good comes along, you always try to find reasons why it isn't good... you have these thoughts that it is too good to be true. Everything that is good is not too good to be true. Some things are really a blessing and something you should cherish.
Well, anyways, I'm going to start typing in this blog at least once a day. I know I said it before, but I'm really about to get on it now. Thanks to gentleman101 for reminding me about my blog! :-)
What else... my life feels so out of whack right now, but at the same time, it feels so good. Weird isn't it. I still need to make some changes though. First change, my finances. I need to stop spending money so much and I need to start saving more of it. I may even get a part time job for a minute to stack up on some benefits and to save up so I can buy a new TV. I've been wanting this TV for a minute, and I'm about to make it happen. :-)
BWright
Well, anyways, I'm going to start typing in this blog at least once a day. I know I said it before, but I'm really about to get on it now. Thanks to gentleman101 for reminding me about my blog! :-)
What else... my life feels so out of whack right now, but at the same time, it feels so good. Weird isn't it. I still need to make some changes though. First change, my finances. I need to stop spending money so much and I need to start saving more of it. I may even get a part time job for a minute to stack up on some benefits and to save up so I can buy a new TV. I've been wanting this TV for a minute, and I'm about to make it happen. :-)
BWright
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